You may be appalled that you came to be in a situation in which another person took over your finances.

“When we got married he brought no money to the relationship. He took control of my money, insisted we could not buy a home and kept me on an allowance of my own earnings.”

Perhaps your abuser took out loans and debt in your name, maybe forged your signature and took life-changing financial risks without your consent and at your expense.

If the aftermath of a relationship of this type has seen you financially ruined there can be an overwhelming regret, a rumination on lost opportunities, on a future that seems to have been obliterated.

If you have brought children into the situation there can be deep self-judgement connected with your lack of conscious insight.

“I blamed myself obsessively for not standing up to him, not asking questions about my own money.”

Our work will involve understanding the ways in which you were undermined, both subtly and grossly, in order that you came to be controlled.

A full understanding, one that can be witnessed and validated, will help you reclaim yourself from the wreckage left by financial control.