With a combination of psychotherapy, EMDR and focused coaching, it is possible to move on from your ordeal. It’s possible to overcome the horrors of what you have experienced and to keep taking the good steps, one at a time, that walk you out of the catastrophe these relationships leave in their wake.

‘‘He said he had been recording me for years. I wanted to kill myself just to escape from his threats of blackmail. ”

This is not a typical recovery from a breakup; it’s a recovery from comprehensive disillusionment. This isn’t mourning the death of a relationship, it’s facing despair.

The word ‘discard’ serves to distinguish this experience from the experiences signified by the words ‘breakup’, ‘separation’ or ‘divorce’. It is essential that psychotherapists and coaches have a deep understanding of this difference.